re: "Feeling Like An Adult" in the workplace, part 3
This is what got me thinking about this subject. The thing is, so many of those buzzwords are super useful and efficient. You just didn't get to feel like you chose to say them.
I have the unique perspective of someone who struck out on their own to some degree. I use phrases like "touching base" constantly, because they're efficient. They communicate ideas that are very productivity-based. Here's one of the final sentences of that article:
"For many workers, it can be risky to tell your boss that you’re going to “come up with really random, insane ideas to see if you like any of them,” rather than that you plan to “think outside the box."
That's not just unprofessional sounding, it's not super accurate? A lot of buzzwords are efficiency-based, so they happen in the workplace. "Think Outside The Box" suggests you're not just randomly guessing, but rather, trying to problem-solve from multiple angles.
Um, so I mentioned my own perspective here, and this is why: very few people get to make the decision to say these sorts of buzzwords, or make decisions that they feel they had total agency over. Their sense of accomplishment is diminished because of the power structures in place in the office and in all our "work till you die" propaganda. You're just doing what you're told, from your point of view.
So it's not exactly a unique concept that the idea of "Feeling Like An Adult" is bullshit.
But I'd like to submit that it's worth viewing that as harmful to your well-being. It's a product of an institution built to work you to death and to feel shame in joy. Start comparing yourself to the 1950s Dad Stereotype. It's pretty likely you are way more 'adult' than he is. Even if you don't have a job and aren't looking for one, just getting through life these days is a ton of work.
You are an adult. You decide what that concept means. Stop feeling ashamed of buzzwords, unless they seem deceitful.
"Feeling Like An Adult" in the workplace, part 2
Having an identity is pretty incompatible with our perception of being an adult. Consider the ultimate Adult Ideal: the 1950s dad stereotype.
A 1950s dad has hobbies, and a ton of personal leisure time. The ultimate 1950s dad hobby I can think of is building ships in bottles.
Really compare yourself to that fictional person. If you have a job, it probably eats up a lot more free time than it would for a rando dude in the fifties. We act like hobbies like video games disqualify us from being real people, but like, that ship in a bottle thing? That's playing with miniatures.
Being An Adult means losing your sense of self and being a complete drone. But this is about feeling like an adult in the workplace! soooo cont
So here's something I want to talk about but I dunno who would care:
"Feeling Like An Adult" in the workplace. Um, I'm gonna make a thread, here.
But like, I think it's very notable we tend to use phrasing like "be an adult" over "be a person." We have completely bizarre and late-stage capitalism concepts drilled into us, and I think it causes our imposter syndromes to fuel this impossible concept. okay, cont
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